"For everything you have missed, you have gained something else, and for everything you gain, you lose something else"
We spend pretty much our entire life in trading with our inner most beliefs. It's not what you want that is important but what you don't want certainly is very important, that's what the world around you will make you believe.
I always wanted to be a movie director and direct great action and comic movies. Movies like "Die Hard" series, "Terminator" series, "Indiana Jones" series,"Dumb and Dumber", "School of Rock", "American Pie" series, the list is endless. And every time I see these movies, the director in me pops out and does what it does the best, remake the entire movie in my own style, script, sequence, shot, casting! (of course all this happens in the Deep Limbic System of my brain)
What is Deep Limbic System?
The deep limbic system (DLS) is in the central area of the brain and is about the size of a walnut. It plays a vital role in setting a person's emotional state. Like a mental photo album, the DLS stores highly charged emotional memories, both positive and negative.
So I was talking about movies...actually directing movies to be precise!
Yes, that was and still is my passion, I guess I have been nurturing it for the past 20 years now. I remember once telling it to my parents and they obviously took it as a joke, because back then I was in school and guess what? I was struggling with my grades so my folks thought I am building this escape route to avoid my studies (they were right regarding my escape plan :) but...somehow I always wanted to be a movie director) being a Movie Director...well I missed it!
Moving on, after putting my dreams of becoming the "Next Best Movie Director of All time" (at least I love to believe so!) in to the thrash can. I picked up something more interesting, more fascinating. Music!
Now when I say music, I mean listening to music only and not playing any musical instrument (thats another wish I missed!). I remember the first music artist who I was introduced to was... "Michael Jackson" via his "Dangerous" music album which came out in 1992! This does not mean I never heard music before 1992...but I never fell in love with Music as such until I heard the Man in the Mirror himself. However, the craze for music and collecting albums was initiated by our very own MJ (RIP! you were and still the best). I remember when Dangerous was released, I saw Black or White video on our national TV (Doordarshan, those days DD was the only option, unlike now we have countless channels!) and the moment I saw and heard Black or White my love for music was ignited and that fire is very much well guarded in fact it's now uncontrollable (ask my wife been driving her mad with my music obsession). Music gives me wings! (not referring to Reb Bull advertisement!) but yes it uplifts me and my mood completely. If I am happy I want to hear some great music, if I am sad I still want to hear some great sad songs, if I am driving, my car should and will be buzzing with music. It's like music has become an eternal part of my life now. I thought I will pick up and learn guitar or play keyboard, some music instrument, but somehow I could not! Again, I missed it!
On the other hand when I was busy collecting music and watching great movies, I picked up something creative, something satisfying as an artist....Sketching!
In class 7th to be accurate, I drew a sketch of a man wearing goggles with side-locks. I remember my Maths class was in progress and I was least interested in what my teacher was teaching, but rather I started to scribble on the last page of my note book. Little did I know my scribble will turn out to be my one more passion. Sketching! I still have my first authentic sketch of that guy wearing goggles. Many more master pieces came out of my hand and have preserved all of them till date. Drew crazy stuff like, Spiderman to Horses, Cars to Bikes, simply enjoyed sketching back then. In 1999 I officially stopped sketching post my graduation. Why? I don't know. I guess moving on in life (running after higher studies, partying, enjoying with friends the usual blame game!) I completely sidelined my hidden talent and started running after life! Again I missed it!
Then came the real serious stuff. Job! I started working in 2002, joined a BPO at an entry level. Back then in 2002, this job was not planned it just happened to me. I was out of a relationship with my ex-girlfriend and to deviate my mind of her I took up this job (of course I appeared some 7 to 8 rounds of interviews to get selected...wasn't easy dude!) I seriously did not know anything about how to work in an office space but I just went with the flow. I was lucky enough to join a team where 70% of the population weregirls!....actually "Hot Looking Girls" :) and rest were boys with funny and cool attitude. It's in this same team I met this really hot and cool girl and I knew the moment I saw her she is the 'ONE'. Funny how within a span of 2 months I broke up with my ex girl and fell in love all over again with this new girl (who eventually turned out to be my now lovely wife) Love can happen again! Trust me! (all you heartbroken people...piece of advice... just be patient and wait for the next girl to walk into your life) it sounds easy but it's not :) I know. So my first job (I am still working in the same company for the past 8 years) taught me a lot. Team work, synergy, performance, potential, perseverance, patience, growth, target, promotion, attrition, appreciation, rewards, off-sites, on-sites, projects, integrity, compliance...I can go on and on. I have worked in multiple domains within my 8 years of professional career. Every time I used to get comfortable with a particular domain I started having that itch and wanted something new to learn. That hunger for learning is still there.
I am now stuck in a body which is bounded by a Lanyard which needs to be swiped from Monday to Friday at the entrance gate of my office premises. Spend certain hours in the office to justify my salary and earn my bread. I love my job. It was not "love at first sight" scene with my job frankly speaking, but yes, now after spending 8 years with it, I feel I have grown in this man to work relationship. Did I miss this! No! guess not :)
Did I give up on love when I was chasing my girlfriend to say yes to me (she made me do crazy and bizarre things for 2 whole years!), no I did not give up. Did I take no for an answer from her (even when she said once to me "I will rather die than to marry you"), No I did not! Did I get married to my girlfriend in spite of spending painful 2 years of chasing her doing special things for her, YES I got married to the same babe who said once "I will die but not marry someone like you"...of course it's a once in a lifetime experience to turn around a complete hell bent NO into a big YES :) (I simply cherish my courtship period...done crazy stuff to woo her, trust me)
I am married to her for the past 6 years now. Did I not commit any mistakes or did we not have our share of ups and downs. Yes! we had and yes I have committed blunders! Did our mistakes shake our marriage, No! it did not because the amount of understanding and trust, I and my wife share is beyond imagine. It's insane how we both can face rough weathers, stand next to each other and still smile.You need to be lucky to have a life partner like this. Did I miss this! NO CERTAINLY NOT!
The point I am making here is....
We spend pretty much our entire life in trading with our inner most beliefs. It's not what you want that is important but what you don't want certainly is very important, that's what the world around you will make you believe.
I always wanted to be a movie director and direct great action and comic movies. Movies like "Die Hard" series, "Terminator" series, "Indiana Jones" series,"Dumb and Dumber", "School of Rock", "American Pie" series, the list is endless. And every time I see these movies, the director in me pops out and does what it does the best, remake the entire movie in my own style, script, sequence, shot, casting! (of course all this happens in the Deep Limbic System of my brain)
What is Deep Limbic System?
The deep limbic system (DLS) is in the central area of the brain and is about the size of a walnut. It plays a vital role in setting a person's emotional state. Like a mental photo album, the DLS stores highly charged emotional memories, both positive and negative.
So I was talking about movies...actually directing movies to be precise!
Yes, that was and still is my passion, I guess I have been nurturing it for the past 20 years now. I remember once telling it to my parents and they obviously took it as a joke, because back then I was in school and guess what? I was struggling with my grades so my folks thought I am building this escape route to avoid my studies (they were right regarding my escape plan :) but...somehow I always wanted to be a movie director) being a Movie Director...well I missed it!
Moving on, after putting my dreams of becoming the "Next Best Movie Director of All time" (at least I love to believe so!) in to the thrash can. I picked up something more interesting, more fascinating. Music!
Now when I say music, I mean listening to music only and not playing any musical instrument (thats another wish I missed!). I remember the first music artist who I was introduced to was... "Michael Jackson" via his "Dangerous" music album which came out in 1992! This does not mean I never heard music before 1992...but I never fell in love with Music as such until I heard the Man in the Mirror himself. However, the craze for music and collecting albums was initiated by our very own MJ (RIP! you were and still the best). I remember when Dangerous was released, I saw Black or White video on our national TV (Doordarshan, those days DD was the only option, unlike now we have countless channels!) and the moment I saw and heard Black or White my love for music was ignited and that fire is very much well guarded in fact it's now uncontrollable (ask my wife been driving her mad with my music obsession). Music gives me wings! (not referring to Reb Bull advertisement!) but yes it uplifts me and my mood completely. If I am happy I want to hear some great music, if I am sad I still want to hear some great sad songs, if I am driving, my car should and will be buzzing with music. It's like music has become an eternal part of my life now. I thought I will pick up and learn guitar or play keyboard, some music instrument, but somehow I could not! Again, I missed it!
On the other hand when I was busy collecting music and watching great movies, I picked up something creative, something satisfying as an artist....Sketching!
In class 7th to be accurate, I drew a sketch of a man wearing goggles with side-locks. I remember my Maths class was in progress and I was least interested in what my teacher was teaching, but rather I started to scribble on the last page of my note book. Little did I know my scribble will turn out to be my one more passion. Sketching! I still have my first authentic sketch of that guy wearing goggles. Many more master pieces came out of my hand and have preserved all of them till date. Drew crazy stuff like, Spiderman to Horses, Cars to Bikes, simply enjoyed sketching back then. In 1999 I officially stopped sketching post my graduation. Why? I don't know. I guess moving on in life (running after higher studies, partying, enjoying with friends the usual blame game!) I completely sidelined my hidden talent and started running after life! Again I missed it!
Then came the real serious stuff. Job! I started working in 2002, joined a BPO at an entry level. Back then in 2002, this job was not planned it just happened to me. I was out of a relationship with my ex-girlfriend and to deviate my mind of her I took up this job (of course I appeared some 7 to 8 rounds of interviews to get selected...wasn't easy dude!) I seriously did not know anything about how to work in an office space but I just went with the flow. I was lucky enough to join a team where 70% of the population were
I am now stuck in a body which is bounded by a Lanyard which needs to be swiped from Monday to Friday at the entrance gate of my office premises. Spend certain hours in the office to justify my salary and earn my bread. I love my job. It was not "love at first sight" scene with my job frankly speaking, but yes, now after spending 8 years with it, I feel I have grown in this man to work relationship. Did I miss this! No! guess not :)
Did I give up on love when I was chasing my girlfriend to say yes to me (she made me do crazy and bizarre things for 2 whole years!), no I did not give up. Did I take no for an answer from her (even when she said once to me "I will rather die than to marry you"), No I did not! Did I get married to my girlfriend in spite of spending painful 2 years of chasing her doing special things for her, YES I got married to the same babe who said once "I will die but not marry someone like you"...of course it's a once in a lifetime experience to turn around a complete hell bent NO into a big YES :) (I simply cherish my courtship period...done crazy stuff to woo her, trust me)
I am married to her for the past 6 years now. Did I not commit any mistakes or did we not have our share of ups and downs. Yes! we had and yes I have committed blunders! Did our mistakes shake our marriage, No! it did not because the amount of understanding and trust, I and my wife share is beyond imagine. It's insane how we both can face rough weathers, stand next to each other and still smile.You need to be lucky to have a life partner like this. Did I miss this! NO CERTAINLY NOT!
The point I am making here is....
I did not pursue movie direction or continue with my sketching but rather joined the bandwagon of regular dream chasers. Complete school, graduate college, get a job, fall in love, get married and raise kids. Thats what most of us will do or are doing currently as I type. At some point in time we all reach crossroads where we need to take decisions. Some of it happens by choice while others happen by chance. As we get into our mid life cycle and cross 30. Life demands more challenges, more perseverance, more patience in order to survive and be happy. Till now I have reached many crossroads of my life where in I took decisions by choice and by chance. It will be interesting to see for the next 30 years of my life what more crossroads this life has to offer me and what decisions I would take... will they be by chance or by choice...thats a question I am currently asking myself daily and hopefully one day I will get all the answers! Did I miss this.... Not yet I suppose :)
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